ELLINGHAUS: Hans Volker of Terrace Formerly of Germany

Posted by on September 23, 2016

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Hans Volker Ellinghaus passed away peacefully on September 3rd after a long and courageous battle with cancer. He was predeceased by his parents, Ernst Ellinghaus and Elisabeth (nee Kaumanns) and his sister. He is survived by his loving partner of 10 years, Fiona. He is also survived by his son and best friend, Falk, his wife Stacey and their children, Selina and Koen. He is also survived by his daughter, Stephanie, her husband Gerry and their children, Shanna and Joey. Also his ex wife Sheila. Volker had many friends through the Ministry Of Forests as he had a career with there for 20 years until his retirement in 2010. Prior to that he had a career with the German Military Police. He was a good and kind man with a gentle spirit. He will be missed by many and loved forever by those who knew him best. Rest in Peace.

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VAN OOSTROM: Cornelis “Keith” of Strathroy

Posted by on September 15, 2016

image_0Peacefully passed on Wednesday, September 14th, 2016 with family by his side at Strathmere Lodge; Keith Van Oostrom in his 81st year. Beloved husband of Dora for 57 years. Dear father of Tony (Rosemary) Van Oostrom of Fenwick, Ontario, Judy (Brian) MacNeil of Winnipeg, Manitoba and Sharon (Otto) Vander Werf of Strathroy, Ontario.  Loving Opa of Michael, Colin, Daniel and Janine. Keith is survived by his 2 brothers and sister all living in the Netherlands.

Predeceased by his parents Antonius and Gijsberta Van Oostrom, and 3 brothers and 1 sister.

The family would like to thank the VON at Trillium Village and the staff of Strathmere Lodge. Special thanks also to Pierina Porciello, Helen Green, Joe White and to all friends who have given their support and friendship.

Friends will be received at DENNING’S OF STRATHROY on Friday, September 16th, 2016 from 6-9 p.m. Visitation will continue at DENNING’S on Saturday, September 17th, 2016 at 9; 30 a.m. followed by a Mass of Christian Burial at All Saints Roman Catholic Church, Strathroy at 11 a.m. with Fr. John Pirt officiating. As an expression of sympathy, donations to All Saints Roman Catholic Church or a charity of your choice would be appreciated by the family. Donations and condolences may be left online at www.denning.ca.

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LEADBEATER, Lloyd Murdoch of Cobourg, Ontario

Posted by on September 7, 2016

Leadbeater Lloyd for webPeacefully at Northumberland Hills Hospital, Cobourg on Monday, September 5, 2016, in his 91st year.  Beloved wife of the late Eva (nee Nevin).  Loving father of Janice (Tom) Bickle and Stephen (Elizabeth Zeller).  Cherished grandfather of Nathan (Jillian), Naomi (Mike), Luke (Alexandra), Jesse (Laura) and Hannah (Josh).  Dear great-grandfather of Elijah, Eve, Gracie, Kaleb, McKinley and Linkin.  Brother of the late Stewart, Alvin, the late Donald, Harold “Mac” and Elaine Coldwell.  Lloyd was a veteran of World War 2.  He was a minister of the Christian Missionary Alliance and several Baptist Churches throughout the Maritimes and in Ontario.  After his retirement, he continued his ministry as a Chaplain.  The family wish to thank Dr. Caldwell, Dr. Bayer and the staff of NHH.  A special thank you is expressed to the Extendicare staff for their many years of compassion to Lloyd. A special thank you to Helen Stewart, Lloyd’s personal care provider.  Visitation will be held on Friday, September 9, 2016 from 7-9 p.m. at MacCoubrey Funeral Home, 30 King St. E., Cobourg.  A service will be held on Saturday, September 10, 2016 at 11 a.m. at Cobourg Alliance Church.  Interment Camborne Cemetery.  Donations to Cobourg Alliance Church or Gideons International would be appreciated by the family.  Condolences received at www.MacCoubrey.com.

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BADOUR: Marta (Marti) of Sechelt Formerly of Winnipeg, MB

Posted by on September 6, 2016

images-4Marta Badour (nee Pastuszenko) born April 11, 1924 passed away peacefully in Sechelt, BC on August 7, 2016. At 92 yrs of age, Marta is pre-deceased by her siblings John, and Anne, and her two children, Glennis and Garnet (Garry). She will be sadly missed by her siblings, Olga, Eva, and Raymond, and their children, her grandchildren, Jeff, Angie, Christina and Rob, her great grandchildren, Rachel, Raynen, Corson, Leif and Celeste, and never to be forgotten, by those truly long-time important and close to her; Louise, Jean, Brownie and Kay. A Service will be held Friday, Sept 9, 2016 at 2pm in Port Coquitlam, BC.

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Watson: Vernon (Vern) of Abbotsford Formerly of Portage la Prairie

Posted by on September 6, 2016

images-4It is with sadness that the family of Vernon Grant Watson announces his passing on Friday, July 8th, 2016, at the age of 92 after a brief illness. Vern passed peacefully in his sleep at Worthington Pavilion in Abbotsford BC., where he resided. Predeceased by his wife Vicki, parents William and Mary Watson, brothers Arnold, Alvin, Glen, sisters Edna, Phoebe, Ada. Vern will be lovingly remembered by his children Grant (Sandy), Kelly (Tara-Dawn) and Scott, grandchildren Nathan (Amanda), Brandy (Bryan), Shane, great grandchildren Simon and Gabiel as well as very close friends Ron and Deb Barbon.
Vern was born in Brandon MB. On March 22nd, 1924 and raised in Plumas MB on the family farm. He joined the armed forces in 1943 and served 4 years. After leaving the forces he became a stationary engineer in Portage la Prairie, MB where he was employed by the Manitoba and Federal governments until his retirement. Vern also started a roofing company in Portage that became Watson’s Roofing. Vern moved to Abbotsford BC. in 1987 where he lived until his passing.
He was very proud of his athletic accomplishments that included baseball, fastball, golf, curling and darts. He was known as one of the best fastball pitches of his era winning multiple local and Manitoba Championships with the Portage Mercurys. One of his fondest memories was out dueling Eddie Feigner’s King and His Court team. Vern was inducted into the Manitoba Softball Hall of Fame in 2003.
A private memorial service will be held in Portage la Prairie for family members.
Memorial donations may be made to the Manitoba Softball Hall of Fame Memorial Fund at 321-145 Pacific Avenue Winnipeg, MB R3B 2Z6

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Lloyd: Theresa of Sarnia

5787c16f842a7LLOYD, THERESA – At Trillium Villa Nursing Home on Tuesday, July 12, 2016, Theresa Letitia (Mooney) Lloyd passed away at 100 years of age. She was the loving wife of the late Elton (Bill) Lloyd. She was predeceased by her parents Joseph and Henrietta Mooney, sisters Ruth Dickson (Bob), Annetta (Paul) Thibault, brothers Walter (Minnie), Albert (Pearl), James, Floyd (Margaret) and Arthur (Opal) . Will be sadly missed by her many nieces, nephews and friends. Theresa was born in Saskatchewan and was a longtime Sarnia resident. She had retired from CIBC after 27 years of service and was a longtime member of St. Georges Anglican Church (All Saints). Funeral services will be held at the D. J. Robb Funeral Home & Cremation Centre (102 N. Victoria St., Sarnia) on Tuesday, July 19, 2016 at 12 o’clock noon with family and friends being received at the funeral home from 10:00 a.m. until time of service. Interment will follow at Lakeview Cemetery. Memorial donations may be made  to a Charity of Choice. Arrangements are entrusted to the D. J. Robb Funeral Home & Cremation Centre. Memories and messages of condolence may be sent through www.djrobb.on.ca

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YURKIW: Marilyn, of St. Thomas, Ontario, formerly of London, Ontario and Western Canada

Posted by on July 5, 2016

YURKIW, Marilyn, of St. Thomas, passed away at her residence, Caressant Care on Mary Bucke on Saturday, July 2, 2016, in her 83rd year.  Born in Garson Quarry, Manitoba, July 25, 1933, she was the daughter of the late Pauline Yurkiw.  Marilyn came to London, ON from Western Canada in 1955, and to St. Thomas in 2009.  She was a retired employee of Goodwill Industries, London.  Sister of Pauline and William, both in Manitoba, Greg in Alberta, and the late Elizabeth “Betty”.  Marilyn is also remembered by several aunts, uncles, nieces, nephews, cousins, and friends.    In keeping with her wishes, cremation has taken place.  There will be no public visitation or funeral service.  A private graveside service will be held at McArthur Cemetery, Southwold Twp.  Memorial donations to St. Andrew’s United Church, St. Thomas will be gratefully acknowledged.  Arrangements entrusted to the Sifton Funeral Home, 118 Wellington St., St. Thomas (519-631-1160).

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Cooke: Orla Rose of Poplar Point Formerly of Winnipeg

Posted by on May 20, 2016

images-4In Memorium.
Born December 13, 1926, Passed August 27, 2001 at home in her sleep.
Orla Rose Klassen Cooke is survived by her daughter Kim Cooke, sons Fletcher Stowe, Timouthy Aaron Stowe, and Ronald G Klassen.
Orla, better known as Ollie, is missed by family and friends.

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REBER, John George of Hensall, formerly of Dashwood and Mississauga, age 78

Posted by on May 17, 2016

REBER, John - Cropped REBER, John 2REBER:  Peacefully, surrounded by the love of his family, at South Huron Hospital, Exeter, on Saturday, May 14, 2016, John George Reber of Queensway Nursing Home, Hensall, formerly of Dashwood and Mississauga, age 78.  Beloved husband of Barbara D. (Corkum) Reber of Dashwood.  Loved father and father-in-law of Sheila Dowe and husband Rex of Port Colborne, Sherry Roberts of St. Catharines, Carol and Randy Bell, Crissy and Kevin Woolmer all of Port Colborne.  Remembered by Barbara’s children Kim and Mike Ryckman of Dashwood, Kevin and Alyson Velianou of Hamilton.  Lovingly remembered by his many grandchildren and great-grandchildren.  Dear brother and brother-in-law of Don Reber, Joyce Reber, Maxine and Clyde Nauss, John Corkum and Parker Corkum.  John will be missed by his many nieces, nephews and their families.  Predeceased by his parents John Burke and Elsie (Settee) Reber, son-in-law David Roberts, brothers Jack Reber, Pat Reber, sisters Louise Friesen, Priscilla Reber and sister-in-law Dora Reber.  At John’s request, cremation has taken place, with private family remembrances to be held at a later date.  If desired, memorial donations (payable by cheque) to the Parkinson Society or a charity of choice would be appreciated by the family.  Arrangements entrusted to T. Harry Hoffman & Sons Funeral Home, Dashwood. Condolences at www.hoffmanfuneralhome.com

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HALPIN, Mary Louise of Belleville

Posted by on May 2, 2016

Halpin, Mary Louise – peacefully at Heart of Hastings Hospice, after a lengthy illness, on Saturday, April 30th, 2016 in her 87th year.  Daughter of the late Joseph and Mary Grabowski.  Beloved wife of Len Halpin of Belleville.  Loving mother of Cathy Halpin (Peter Rollins) of Belleville and Donna Mondani of Richmond, BC. Cherished grandmother of Jennifer Sharpe of New York City and John Philip Mondani of Vancouver.  Louise is survived by her brother Robert (June) Grabowski and her sister Patricia Wexler both of Winnipeg. Louise is a former President of the St. Michael’s CWL.

Funeral Mass will be celebrated at the Church of St. Michael the Archangel on Saturday, May 7th, 2016 at 11:00 a.m. with the family greeting visitors at the church from 10:00 a.m. until the time of Mass.

Arrangements entrusted to the Steele Funeral Home, Moira Street Chapel (613-968-2273).

If desired, Memorial Donations to the Heart of Hastings Hospice would be appreciated by the family.

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Roddy: Jon HOFFMAN of Langley Formerly of Qualicum

Posted by on April 22, 2016

images-4Nov. 24, 1944 – March 7, 2016

The family of Roddy Jon Hoffman is saddened to announce his passing on Monday, March 7, 2016 in Langley, BC.

Roddy was born to parents Leo and Ruth Hoffman of Souris, Manitoba and grew up in Winnipeg.

In 1963 Roddy joined the Royal Bank of Canada and worked at a number of branches in Winnipeg before being transferred with the bank’s Inspection Department to Vancouver, BC in 1972.

Roddy managed several branches in the Lower Mainland including North Vancouver, Port Coquitlam and New Westminster as well as working in commercial lending.

He took early retirement and moved to the Oceanside Community of Qualicum Beach on Vancouver Island.

Having suffered a stroke in 2003 Roddy’s mobility was limited and in 2015 he moved back to the Lower Mainland to be closer to family.

Predeceased by his parents, Roddy is survived by his son Kyle Hoffman and daughter Kara Hoffman, along with 2 grandchildren Anthony & Abigale, his brother Gary Hoffman & sister in law Wendy, nephews Ryan & Tyler and their families, all of the lower mainland, as well as his first wife, Caroline Poloni of South Surrey, BC.

As per Roddy’s wishes, there will be no formal service.

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TAYLOR: Robert W. “Bob” Sr., of St. Thomas, Ontario

Posted by on April 19, 2016

Robert TaylorTAYLOR, Robert W. “Bob” Sr., of St. Thomas, passed away at the St. Thomas Elgin General Hospital on Sunday, April 17, 2016, in his 79th year.  Husband of the late Doris “Bea” (nee Rainsforth) Taylor (1998).  Father of David Taylor (Stephanie) of Montréal, QC, and Robert W. Taylor Jr. of St. Thomas.  Grandfather of Victoria, Michelle, Jamie, Zachary and Zoe Taylor, all of Montréal, QC.  Brother of Miriam Rawlinson of London, Kathryn Spencer of Cleveland, OH, Phillip Taylor of Winnipeg, MB, and the late Wendy McFarlane.  Also survived by many in-laws, nieces and nephews.  Born in Montréal, QC, on July 9, 1937, he was the son of the late John and Florence (nee Wood) Taylor. Bob was a retired photographer for the Montréal Star and later was a welder at Triad Industries, London.  Friends will be received by the family on Wednesday evening, April 20th from 7:00-9:00 p.m. at the Sifton Funeral Home, 118 Wellington St., St. Thomas (519-631-1160) where the funeral service will be held on Thursday, April 21, 2016 at 11:00 a.m.  Interment in Holy Angels’ Cemetery.  Memorial donations to the charity of one’s choice gratefully acknowledged.

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GABORIAUD, Henri of Sudbury, ON

Posted by on April 14, 2016

GABORIAUD, HenriThe family announces with great sorrow his passing in Sudbury, Thursday, December 31, 2015 at the Maison Vale Hospice at the age of 92 years. Beloved husband of the late Val (née Radey) predeceased 1994. Predeceased by his parents Hilaire  and Berthe Gaboriaud. Loving father of Elaine Gaboriaud and Susan Gaboriaud (Marlene). Dear brother of Thérèse Bourrier. Predeceased by his siblings Madeleine, Eugène and Gabriel of Notre-Dame de Lourdes, Manitoba. Cherished grandfather of Alex. A special place in his heart was taken up by Ellen, Terry (Lynn), Vance (Lisa), Stephanie, Brennan and Kayla. Brother-in-law to Flo Radey and Theresa Houle. Sadly missed by many nieces, nephews, relatives and friends. Henri was a veteran of the Second World War and a long time member of the Legion Branch 76. He was retired from Inco where he worked as a miner for over 40 years. Henri shared his passion for life with everyone. Meeting him meant walking away with a smile. The family will receive relatives and friends at the COOPERATIVE FUNERAL HOME, 222 Lasalle Blvd, Sudbury, Wednesday, January 6, 2016 from 2-5 & 7-9:30 p.m. Mass of Christian burial will be celebrated on Thursday at 10:30 a.m. at St-Jean de Brébeuf Church, Sudbury . Donations to the Maison Vale Hospice and Meals on Wheels can be made by cheque or online at www.cooperativefuneralhome.ca.

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SPEARMAN: Stephen “Wonder” of Sarnia

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Our family is saddened by the peaceful passing of our beloved brother Stephen in his 65th. year, on Thursday, March 31, 2016. He is predeceased by his parents Grace and Alton and his sister and brother in-law Sandra and Len Higgins.  Beloved brother of Susan Ward (Dan), Michael (Janine), Scott (Jackie), Shelley Keller (Morgan) and David (Angie). Loved by many nieces and nephews; Kevin and Shawn Spearman, Jean and Andrew Barber, Daniel Keller, Jeff and Eric Spearman. Great Uncle of Alexander and Emily. Our family would like to extend a special thanks to both Carl Hardwick and Bill Jeffrey for their longtime friendship with “Wonder”.  Also we would like to extend our warm thanks to the staff of Palliative Care. “Wonder” was an inspiration to all of us as he fought a long battle with kidney disease. Our treasured and loving memories will last forever in our hearts. Cremation has taken place. At “Wonder’s” request there will be a private family graveside service at a later date. Sympathy may be expressed through memorial donations to Bluewater Health Palliative Care or the Sarnia Kidney Foundation would be appreciated by the family. Arrangements entrusted to the D.J. Robb Funeral Home & Cremation Centre. Memories and messages of condolence may be sent through www.djrobb.on.ca.

                                                                       

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BEND: Kay of London

Posted by on March 30, 2016

BEND, Kay….. Peacefully with family by her side at Highview Residence, London, on Wednesday, March 30, 2016, Kay (Fisher) Bend in her 103rd year. Beloved wife of the late Robert Bend. Loving mother of Jack Bend and his wife Jane Rylett of London, Jim Bend of Cochrane, Alberta and Rob Bend and his wife Narisa Somapa of Winnipeg. Dear grandmother of Ryan and his wife Jennifer, Allison and her husband Andy, Bonnie and her husband Edgar, Becky and her husband Mike and Brandy and her partner Sylvie and missed by 7 great-grandchildren. Predeceased by her sisters Mary, Emma, Dorothy and Zella and her brother Ed. Also missed by numerous nieces and nephews. Cremation has taken place. A memorial service will be held at Stonewall Anglican Church, Stonewall MB, details to follow. As an expression of sympathy, donations may be made to Alzheimer Society of Ontario, 20 Eglinton Ave. W., 16th floor, Toronto, ON M4R 1K8   http://www.alzheimer.ca/ or Heart and Stroke Foundation – Ontario, 2300 Yonge Street, Suite 1300, Box 2414, Toronto, ON M4P 1E4   http://www.heartandstroke.on.ca/  A. Millard George Funeral Home entrusted with arrangements 519-433-5184. Online condolences, memories and photographs shared at www.amgfh.com The family will be forever grateful for the loving care provided by the staff at Highview Residences – Capulet Walk, London.

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PALMER: Mary “Dianne” of Woodstock

Posted by on March 26, 2016

PalmerwebPalmer (nee Korby), Mary “Dianne” – Died peacefully at home with her adoring husband, Ted, by her side on Monday, March 21, 2016 in her 73rd year.  Esteemed wife of Edward (Ted) Palmer.  Loving mother of Grant (Anita) of Winnipeg, Tanya (Wade) of Stratford and Christopher (Amanda) of London.  Much loved grandmother of Mike, Tom, Michelle, Jacob, Noah, Rebekkah, Bradley, Shannon and Nathanael. Also survived by Ted’s siblings Patrick, Lynda and Karen and their spouses as well as several nieces and nephews and a number of great-nieces and great-nephews.  Predeceased by her parents, Daniel and Lily Korby,  brother John, step-grandson Thom Welch and nephew Steven Korby.   Dianne served as a Salvation Army Corps Officer in Toronto and St. Thomas, worked as a Homemaker supervisor for the St. Thomas Red Cross and as the Branches Supervisor for the Elgin County Library system.  Dianne co-authored the book, Full-Time Families. She earned her Bachelor of Arts from the University of Windsor and her Master of Library Sciences from the University of Western Ontario.  She was a member and past-president the Probus Club of Woodstock-Oxford.  We are grateful for the compassionate care Dianne received over the past several months from the Saint Elizabeth nurses and from Dr. Karen Fryer.  You made a difficult time more bearable. The family will receive friends at the SMITH-LeROY FUNERAL HOME, 69 Wellington St. N, Woodstock on Friday, April 1, 2016 from 2-4 and 7-9pm.  A Celebration of Dianne’s life will take place on Saturday, April 2, 2016 at 10:30am at St. Paul’s Anglican Church, 9 Douro St. (at Waterloo), Stratford.  The Reverend Robert Doerr, Officiant, and the Reverend Daniel Bowyer, Celebrant. Private interment to follow in Avondale Cemetery.  As an expression of sympathy, donations may be made to VON Sakura House.  Smith-LeRoy 519-537-3611.  Personal condolences may be sent at www.smithleroy.com.

Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all. (Proverbs 31:29, NIV)

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McCONNELL, W. Ross of Grand Bend, formerly of Oakville, Milton, Winnipeg and Vancouver Island, age 80

Posted by on March 23, 2016

McCONNELL - Ross croppedMcCONNELL:  Peacefully, surrounded by the love of his family, at South Huron Hospital, Exeter, on Tuesday, March 22nd, 2016, W. Ross McConnell, of Grand Bend, formerly of Oakville, Milton, Winnipeg and Vancouver Island, age 80.  Beloved husband of the late Eunice Evelyn (Fielding) (1993) and the late Diane Jacqueline (Thompson) McPherson (2005).  Loved father and father-in-law of David and Ann McConnell, Brian and Tina McConnell all of Burlington, Pamela McConnell and Colin Milroy of Winnipeg, MB.  Cherished grandpa of Laura, Rachel, Jennifer, Tyler, Ashley and great-grandson Bennett.  Will be sorely missed by his canine companion Winston.  Predeceased by his parents Wallace and Elsie (Crabbe) McConnell and his beloved canine companion Freckles.  Resting at the T. Harry Hoffman & Sons Funeral Home, Dashwood with visitation on Thursday, March 24th from 6:00 PM to 9:00 PM. Family and friends may gather for Interment Trafalgar Lawn Cemetery, 1149 Dundas St. W., Oakville, on Saturday March 26th, 2016 at 12:30 PM.  A post-internment gathering will be held in Burlington from 2:00 PM to 4:00 PM at the Black Bull Pub, 1124 Guelph Line, Burlington. Ross and Eunice were the Founding Owners of Gateway Reproductions which is now known as Gateway Visual Communications in Mississauga.  He was a member of Rotary International, Grand Bend and will be remembered by many in the Grand Bend area with his 1953 Robin-egg blue Cadillac Convertible.   If desired, memorial donations (payable by cheque) to Rotary International or a charity of choice would be appreciated by the family.  Condolences at www.hoffmanfuneralhome.com

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EDE: Sheila of Sidney

Posted by on March 22, 2016

images-4**this isn’t so much obituary as a remembrance of my mom, my dad, and my step-dad, a glimpse into their lives as viewed through my own. the photo’s with sheila, bill, ted, and his girlfriend rose at a restaurant i worked at, circa 1991**

It was a beautiful sunny March 5th morning and a lovely day to bring my mom to, as they say, her final resting place.

Back in the late 80s she and my step-dad bought a piece of land (it was actually possible to do that in those days) and built their retirement home near a lovely little public beach. They later pragmatically downsized into a condo, and while I was visiting that condo one weekend (as I did over several years) they discussed where they would like their ashes to be distributed. Dad’s navy days, plus our time as a family living in the Bahamas, plus living on an island, all inspired ideas for offshore distribution. From a boat out at sea, perhaps? I forget the other ideas, but they finally settled on “our little beach.”

It wasn’t really “their” little beach, near the retirement home they built, it was a public beach. But they had moved from Alberta, and there was hardly ever anyone at that little beach, so it was particularly special. Later in life they weren’t able to traverse the rocky trail and the steep steps, or clamber over the misplaced logs – former living trees that fall off the barges taking them (and local jobs) to distant sawmills in foreign lands – but, it remained forever “our little beach.”

Sadly, as the years progressed, my mother distanced herself from me. A couple of years before she died she’d fallen and broken her jaw, and her personality changed noticeably after that. She went from being friendly and extroverted, to somewhat surly and quite antisocial, even denying her closest friend visits. I’m not sure what she saw, or didn’t see, in me that threatened or hurt her. I wasn’t able to be there for her at the end of her life because she specifically told me she didn’t appreciate my visits. It hurt, but I honoured her request and let her go as graciously as I could.

I was definitely there for my dad in his final year though. I helped him move into a small, friendly seniors’ facility and visited him every week with flowers. A special bond evolved between us, even through his dementia. By some miracle I was able to be at his bedside through his final hours, holding his hand and wondering if he could hear, in his semi-coma state, the lovely voice of my friend Pashta singing his spirit to freedom. I’ve written about that experience elsewhere … today I’d like to offer a little obituary for my mom, and my step-dad, and my birth father too, as I say another final goodbye to their bodies while holding onto the happy memories we’ve shared.

Sheila Kitching was born on May 1st, 1926 in Darlington, England. Sheila’s mother, my grandmother Mary, I’ve learned, worked setting tables in one of the big Downton Abbey-like mansions in Northern England. I recall also learning that Mary’s family had a post office of some sort and Mary would hike through the fields in her long dress and petticoats to deliver parcels and letters and in the process she met Bert Kitching, my grandpa. Bert worked on the trains. He and Mary eventually married, and raised Sheila plus her four brothers – Norman, Dennis, Raymond, and Stanley – in a small row house, kind of like a townhouse. They’re all deceased now, Sheila was the last to go.

Many years ago mom told me she forged my granddad’s signature so she could join the war effort when she was still slightly underage. She later denied that, so I don’t really know what the truth is. She was in the Royal British Air Force, though, and claims she was an airplane mechanic. I began to wonder about that when I was old enough to really think about what that would involve, and we got a flat tire and called Dad for help. But mom insisted she helped the mechanics fix the airplanes, for the war effort.

In her younger years Mom was a very beautiful, social, out-going, fun spirited and musical person. She told me stories about sneaking out of the camps when she was younger, with a girlfriend of hers, to go to the dances. Certainly the war, for women of that era (and for men too), was one of the only places they could find any freedom. Their other choices were to work in the factories (which mom did not want to do), or have babies.

Mom eventually did have babies, obviously … she met Ted Bandcroft in London after the war. Ted was a bus driver on the double deckers and mom’s job was to collect tickets from the passengers. The funny story is that Sheila suffered motion sickness so she’d signal to Ted whenever she needed to stop and deal with that particular challenge. I guess that experienced contributed to a bond between them.

The emigrated to Canada with my brother Maurice when he was about 8 years old, sometime in the late 1950s. Ted came first and travelled on the train across Canada. He decided to stop in Edmonton because he’d heard there was work there, and got a job driving a bakery truck. He later drove city bus, until he retired from that job later in life.

I was born in 1961, obviously it wasn’t a planned birth. My mom told me she’d been told she’d never have any more children after my brother was born, 12 years prior to me. So, I was a bit of a surprise. Maybe this unresolved disappointment (or however you want to describe what it would be like to be a 35 year old woman with an unexpected pregnancy) is what rose to the surface in those final years, who knows.

I remember riding on the city bus with dad in Edmonton now and then, but I especially enjoyed the mornings on the “Winnifred Stewart” bus, picking up the special needs kids and taking them to their school.

Mom and my Ted dad split up when I was about 6 or 7. I don’t really remember any details, just that dad didn’t come home anymore. Ted was very kind to me throughout my life, even though I didn’t often live in the same city as him. He always wrote to me, and telephoned when that became more accessible. I still have some of the postcards he sent to me when I was living in Manitoba, in Puerto Rico, and in the Bahamas.

My mom met Bill Ede at a dance and I was happy with my “Uncle Bill” too. One day early in their relationship, I remember, we were in Edmonton driving to go visit friends of Bill’s and mom said “what would you think if I married your Uncle Bill.” I said that sounded ok, and then she said that would mean we’d be moving. I didn’t really understand what that meant, I was only 8 or so, but I trusted them.

They were married on July 25th 1970 and I was there, in a little purple dress with white gloves and a hat. I inherited two more big brothers, John and Raymond, and their families which included, eventually, nieces and nephews.

Mom and Bill dad and I lived in Brandon Manitoba for about 2 years, the boys didn’t travel with us because they were all old enough to be living on their own. I made some really great friends in grade 4 in Brandon, so when it was time for the next move I was a little more hesitant because I knew it meant leaving those friends. But, we were going to Puerto Rico, and that sounded pretty cool. My friend Christine and I wrote letters to each other for many years, and later found each other on facebook. And, when we met up again in 2012 we discovered that we’re still really good friends, which is also pretty cool.

So my new dad, Bill, worked in the oil industry as a contractor. His work in Brandon, then Ponce, and then in Freeport (where we lived for 2.5 years) was about opening and closing “plants.” In those days the oil and gas industry was more a means to an end than an end in itself. It wasn’t until years later that I began to understand the extent of the environmental damage that oil and gas creates, it’s so much more now than it was in back then. Even way back in the mid 70s I remember we would have to scrub patches of oil off our feet after visiting beautiful and otherwise pristine beaches in Freeport, because of the spillage from the offshore oil rigs.

There were definitely some challenging times and difficult conversations, as I was growing as an activist for peace and environment. My birth dad, Ted, was very supportive of that work. He drove me to the Clayoquot Sound action camp in the early 90s, and spent time walking around the camp talking to people. He loved going to pow-wows, as did I, and we would talk about the plight of native people and the challenges ahead of us trying to keep the air and water clean, working for peace in world where war is waged for profit and oil.

With Bill, I learned to respect the work that he did in the “plants,” or factories as I later learned is a more accurate description of them. And I think Bill learned to understand my concerns, later in life. In his day they were providing energy to local communities across Canada in ways the world had never seen before. To people living in a cold nation, many of whom had grown up without electricity or central heating systems, this was nothing short of miraculous. During one of our conversations he agreed that what’s going on now, in the northern tarsands, where infrastructure is being massively expanded for the purpose of exporting bitumen offshore (for profit), is radically different than what he was working on. I recall him saying “it’s gone too far.” We agreed to meet there, and didn’t talk about it anymore.

Bill and Sheila and I moved from Freeport back to Edmonton in 1975 and again I had to say goodbye to friends and this time go back to a very cold snowy environment, quite different than the pre-teen years we’d spent in the sun and on the beaches! Bill had 40 acres near Fort Saskatchewan so, after a year in Edmonton living in the Dovercourt house of mom’s (at 12423-135 St, an address that has stuck in my brain since I was encouraged to memorize it as a kid), we moved out to the farm. I thought this was pretty cool because it meant I could have a horse, a love affair I’d begun while volunteering at a riding stable in Freeport. We lived in a little trailer while building a house on dad’s property, and eventually built a barn for the horses too. My brothers all helped build that house, and Mom and I did too.

I lived on the acreage until after high school, and then left for Vancouver in 1983. I made sure to bring the horses with me, it was a huge amount of work to care for them in the winter and I wouldn’t have left that with my mom and dad. I had acquired enough office and computer skills to land me a good job in Vancouver which, in retrospect, is darned lucky considering I had my two dependents with me! Ah, the impetuous confidence of youth ….

But this isn’t about me, except in the context of viewing my parents’ life through these eyes (which is really the only option we all have), so, back to their story. My dad Ted continued to communicate regularly with me, now we had better phone access and he enjoyed visiting me and my brother in Vancouver about annually. Mom and Bill built a machine shop on the back-40, they could see that the industry was growing all around them and it was a smart business decision to service some of that equipment. They sold the business and retired in the late 80s and moved to Vancouver Island, to build another beautiful home. They travelled quite a bit in those years, too. My dad Ted also enjoyed travelling.

It was an interesting time to be alive on the planet, for that generation. So many big changes … radio, tv, internet! They became devout patriots at a young age, fought in the big war, and ventured overseas without really understanding what they were coming to or whose land they were taking. For the most part, at least for my parents, they worked hard, earned their pensions, enjoyed socialized health care, and they all had a comfortable retirement.

As happens, they all also got older and older and older. I watched, as compassionately as I could, as their brains began to abandon them and their memories began to fade. I wasn’t able to be with my Ted dad as much as I would have liked to have been in his final years because I was a rather impoverished student and then working to establish a non-profit street newspaper (which ALL my parents contributed to, by the way, bless them). I also didn’t really understand the process of aging and dying. I did travel to see my dad about once a year, I was there for his 80th birthday party, and I was lucky to see him in the home his brother and my aunt, and Dad’s lady partner friend, had chosen for him and helped move him into. It took him a minute to recognize me, but when he did a big smile emerged. “Is that Janine?” he said. It was a precious moment and I began to realize this would likely be the last time I’d see him.

And it was. Mom broke the news a couple of weeks later that he had died. I’m so glad to have had that last visit with him, and I learned a big lesson. When it was time to care for Mom and Dad, I wanted to be there.

Unfortunately, for whatever reason, Mom decided she didn’t want me there. I fought that at first, sincerely believing (as I do to this day) that she was confused and misguided and that the efforts to estrange me were unfounded. But eventually I had to give up, and just let her go the way she wanted. She had been such a social butterfly, and in the end she was quite reclusive. Who knows what happens, right?

I was delighted, however, to see my Bill dad every week while he was in his final home. Dad seemed quite content … he had his own room, and I made sure he was comfortable there. I got permission from mom to bring a couple of beautiful paintings, got him a TV and the most comfortable chair imaginable. For his 90th birthday I contacted as many family and friends as I could and encouraged them to send cards or telephone. Of course many of them would have done that anyways, but I wanted to be sure Dad knew how much he was loved. I figured it was probably his last birthday, though I did encourage him to start thinking about his 91st!
It wasn’t long after his 90th birthday that Bill dad began to visibly decline. He no longer wanted to leave his room for the music sessions, whereas previously he’d absolutely loved those! He couldn’t remember what he’d had for breakfast, but he could reach for song lyrics he’d known since he was a boy in Croydon. He was an inspiration, for sure, and they loved him and his enthusiastic singing. That singing, by the way, was definitely a big part of my life growing up with he and mom. They sang all-the-time! It was usually mom who would instigate it, whatever tune came into her head, or she heard on the tv or radio, or saw something that triggered a memory, and next thing I knew the two of them would be singing up a storm. Many years ago they bought me a piano book with a bunch of their old songs, and I’d do my best to keep up with them as they sang ahead of my efforts to play them!

One day, a couple of weeks before he died, Bill dad asked me about Jesus. He said some people believe they’ll see him when they die, don’t they? We were never a family for regular churchgoing, but I have found spiritual strength and understanding through yoga and wiccan and buddhist teachings, so I told him that yes, some people believe that and if he wants to believe it too, he sure can. I assured him that, as I believe, wherever he’s going it’s a place full of music and love. I told him he’ll be able to see his family and friends there too, he’ll be surrounded by lots of love and warmth, and whatever he imagines, that’s where he’ll end up. That seemed to comfort him somewhat, and he began the slow march towards death. I’m really really glad I was there to help him cross over on his final day.

I remember reading somewhere that there’s the year we’re born and the year we die, but all of our life is contained within that little dash between those years. These are the dominant memories emerging as I say goodbye to my last parent, of course there is so much more. As my dad Ted said, though, “all we have, in the end, are our memories.” He’s right! So to make happy ones, to live a life truthfully and not to fear the darkness.

Lionel Philip (Ted) Bandcroft: April 21st 1924 – August 20th 2007
William John (Bill) Ede: February 15th 1925 – May 6th 2015
Sheila Kitching (Bandcroft) (Ede): May 1st 1926 – January 31st 2016

It feels different, now having parents. And especially, I think, because I don’t have children. Suddenly I feel “grown up” in a way I haven’t previously, even though the final years are so much different than the younger years when we can still call our parents to chat, and share our concerns, and seek guidance. Eventually, I suppose, we all learn to look within.

The morning I took mom’s ashes to the ocean I also sprinkled some wildflower seeds into pots on my balcony, those seeds will grow into flowers that will feed hummingbirds. Mom and Bill dad both loved birds, every house we lived in had several bird feeders. Mom made sure I knew that if you start to feed them through the winter, you must continue because the birds become dependent on the supply. She taught me a lot of good things, they all did.

Rest in peace, guys, I’ll be there too someday. Meanwhile, I’m enjoying life in the dash lane.

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Ameen: Parvaiz M of Prince Albert

Posted by on March 22, 2016

images-4Passed away unexpectedly in his home town, Haripur, on February 8th, 2016 in his 68th year. Beloved husband and best friend of Mamoona (Khan) for 39 years. Dearly loved father of Farsa Imran of Red Deer, Alberta, Sarah Iqbal (Waqas) of Sialkot, Hafsa Jatt (Talha) of Lahore, and Dilawar Aziz (Anna) of Flin Flon, BC. Dear brother of Aziz of Karachi, Ameen of Red Deer, Alberta and the late Sheena Ifthikar (Hassan). Also survived by several grandchildren, nieces and nephews. Parvaiz will be sadly missed, he is an immense loss for family and friends but a priceless gain for heaven.

A private family funeral will be held in Haripur on a later date. A memorial will be held in Red Deer, AB in June 2016.

For those who wish, donations to the Heart & Stroke Foundation would be appreciated by the family.

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WARREN: Frank C. of St. Thomas, Ont

Posted by on February 25, 2016

Frank Warren

WARREN – It is with great sadness that the family of Frank Charles Warren announces his passing on Wednesday, February 24, 2016 in his 87th year.  Frank is survived by his children Cindy Howlett of St. Thomas, Martin (Paige) Mills of Winnipeg, Anne (Bill) Martin of St. Thomas, Kevin Mills of B.C., Russ Earhart of St. Thomas, and Judy (Bob) Holt of St. Thomas; numerous grandchildren and great grandchildren; his twin brothers Bill (Ruth) Warren of St. Thomas and Harry (Dorothy) Warren of Stoney Creek; and by his sisters-in-law Shirley (late Herb) Percival and Margot (late Gordon) Bolton all of Guelph; and many nieces and nephews.  Predeceased by his wife Joyce Warren (2012), his sister Jean Chiasson, and his brother-in-law Rev. Canon Harold Thomasson.  Frank had retired after many years of service as a nurse’s aide at the St. Thomas Psychiatric Hospital.  Visitation will be held at the Shawn Jackson Funeral Home 31 Elgin Street, St. Thomas (519-631-0570) on Saturday, February 27, 2016 from 10:00am – 12:00pm, with the funeral service will taking place in the chapel at 12:00pm.  Cremation to follow.  If desired, donations to the Salvation Army – St. Thomas or the St. Thomas Christian Church (Disciples of Christ) would be appreciated. Personal condolences to the family can be made at www.shawnjacksonfuneralhome.com.

 

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GABORIAUD, Henri of Sudbury, ON

Posted by on February 3, 2016

GABORIAUD, HenriThe family announces with great sorrow his passing in Sudbury, Thursday, December 31, 2015 at the Maison Vale Hospice at the age of 92 years. Beloved husband of the late Val (née Radey) predeceased 1994. Predeceased by his parents Hilaire and Berthe Gaboriaud. Loving father of Elaine Gaboriaud and Susan Gaboriaud (Marlene). Dear brother of Thérèse Bourrier. Predeceased by his siblings Madeleine, Eugène and Gabriel of Notre-Dame de Lourdes, Manitoba. Cherished grandfather of Alex. A special place in his heart was taken up by Ellen, Terry (Lynn), Vance (Lisa), Stephanie, Brennan and Kayla. Brother-in-law to Flo Radey and Theresa Houle. Sadly missed by many nieces, nephews, relatives and friends. Henri was a veteran of the Second World War and a long time member of the Legion Branch 76. He was retired from Inco where he worked as a miner for over 40 years. Henri shared his passion for life with everyone. Meeting him meant walking away with a smile. The family will receive relatives and friends at the COOPERATIVE FUNERAL HOME, 222 Lasalle Blvd, Sudbury, Wednesday, January 6, 2016 from 2-5 & 7-9:30 p.m. Mass of Christian burial will be celebrated on Thursday at 10:30 a.m. at St-Jean de Brébeuf Church, Sudbury . Donations to the Maison Vale Hospice and Meals on Wheels can be made by cheque or online at www.cooperativefuneralhome.ca.

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RONDEAU: Grant Stephen of Winnipeg

Posted by on January 30, 2016

images-4After a hard fought battle with cancer, Grant Rondeau, beloved husband, father, and grandfather has passed away at his residence on Thursday, January 21, 2016 at the age of 63 years.

Predeceased by his parents Alfred and Cecile and survived by the love of his life Kelly; daughter Jody; son-in-law Billy; step-children Gary, Cheryl, Josh(Angie) and Tyler as well his siblings Bruce(Phyllis), Tim(Angie) and Kathy(Sinc). He also survived by his 13 grandchildren, Marissa (Jon), Chase, Lacey, Storm, and two foster children Larry, Elyssa, Jennifer, Michael, Keri and Kailee, Parker and Willow.

Grant previously attended Glenwood and Glenlawn Schools. Around the age of 15 he ran his own grocery store, which was one of his first jobs. He was a jack-of-all-trades but his true passion was carpentry; something which has inspired his grandson Chase to follow his footsteps.
In 1987 he and Kelly met and it was love at first sight. Grant was a kind, caring and gentle man. He was there for you when you needed it whether you just needed a good laugh or you needed some advice. He also cared very much for animals and treated his dog Kiki as if she was another human daughter. He always knew how to make anyone laugh with his countless jokes even if the joke had been told several times before. 

All-in-all, Grant was an incredible man who loved to make everyone happy and he will forever live on in his family who loved him dearly.

Grant’s life will be celebrated at 1:00 p.m. on Monday, February 1, 2016 in the First Unitarian Universalist Church, 603 Wellington Crescent at Academy Road.  At Grant’s request, please arrive with only good humour and fun memories; leaving as many tears at home as possible.

The family would like to give their deepest sincere thank you to Dr. Dawe and nurse Debbie from CancerCare Manitoba and to his “Earth Angels” from the WRHA Palliative Care Program for the professional and compassionate care they provided Grant in his time of need.

Jody and Billy would like to express a very special thank you to Kelly for taking the best of care of Dad.

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PLUCHINSKI: Eleanor of Winnipeg

Posted by on January 30, 2016

images-4It is with deep sadness that we announce the passing of our beloved sister, aunt and friend, Eleanor Marion Pluchinski on January 6, 2016

Eleanor was born April 19, 1948 to Hedwig (Howke) and Ernest Pluchinski.  She grew up in Whitemouth before the family moved to Winnipeg in 1953; settling in East Kildonan.  Eleanor attended Miles Macdonell Collegiate, graduating in 1964.  After graduation, Eleanor was employed by the Winnipeg School Division #1, retiring in 1990 after 25 years of dedicated service.

Eleanor was predeceased by her parents and baby brother Alfred.  She is sadly missed by her sisters, Dolores (Ewald) Knopf, Margaret (Henry) Splett and Valerie (Alvin) Pescitelli; brother Harvey (Emilie) as well as numerous nieces and nephews.

A celebration of Eleanor’s life was held at 11:00 a.m. on Friday, January 22, 2016 in the First Unitarian Universalist Church, 603 Wellington Crescent. Following a reception, her ashes were interred in Glen Eden Memorial Gardens, Garden of Everlasting Life.

In lieu of flowers, memorial contributions may be made to a charity of choice.

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POLEC, Douglas B. of London

Posted by on January 29, 2016

Polec 1 - edited POLEC, Douglas B. – Passed away peacefully after a short battle with cancer on Friday, January 29, 2016 in his 71st year.  Lovingly remembered by his daughter, Deborah-Ann Polec of Los Angeles, California.  Sadly missed by his sister Winona “Nonnie” Hoffinger of Portland, Oregon; his brother Gary Polec of Winnipeg, Manitoba; his best friend Francoise of London; and his nieces and nephew: Glenn, Lori, Sheri and Cathy.  Doug was a caring, gentle and dedicated man who appreciated his family, friends and his former co-workers at 3M Canada.  He had a passion for golf and will be fondly remembered by his golf buddies.  A memorial reception to celebrate Doug’s life will be held at WESTVIEW FUNERAL CHAPEL, 709 Wonderland Road North, on Friday, February 5th, 2016 from 11:00 a.m. – 1:00 p.m. with Words of Remembrance at 11:30 a.m.   Those wishing to make a donation in memory of Doug are asked to consider the London Regional Cancer Program.  For information and online condolences, please visit www.westviewfuneralchapel.com

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SMITH: Irene Alice (Jelly) of Chesley, formerly of New Liskeard and Hamilton

Posted by on January 29, 2016

Irene SmithAlice “Irene” (Jelly) Smith of Chesley, formerly of New Liskeard and Hamilton, passed away at Elgin Abbey, Chesley on Thursday, January 28, 2016 in her 101st year.

Beloved mother of Brucie (Jelly) and her husband Bruno DeLazzer of Bramalea, Ellen (Smith) and her husband Paul Muir of Winnipeg, Charlotte (Smith) Roberts of Elmwood and mother-in-law of Debbie Jelly of Ingersoll. Irene will remain in the hearts and minds of her 10 grandchildren, 16 great-grandchildren and 6 great great-grandchildren.

She was predeceased by her son David Jelly, husbands George Jelly and Charles Smith and siblings, John, Albert, Margaret, Patty and Agnes MacKenzie.

Irene’s wishes were for cremation to take place and private family services will follow.

If desired, memorial donations can be made to Grey Bruce Animal Shelter or the charity of your choice.

Arrangements entrusted to Rhody Family Funeral Home, Chesley.

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